My baby turned 5 years old today. As he was clapping, laughing and I think what you might call dancing in Autisilandia while blowing out his candles, I couldn’t stop the tears from coming down after having a quick flashback of his previous birthdays and his progress.
At 1 he was also clapping singing “to you, to you” and spitting all over the cake trying to blow out the candle.
At 2 years old he couldn’t blow them out and that was a big red flag that something was wrong with my son. Of course I had been seeing other signs but didn’t want to admit it, and that’s why I made everyone wait forever, trying to make him blow them out, until my husband went ahead and did it because everyone was starting to get bored.
Three was torture for him; while everyone was enjoying themselves, he was just sitting in the corner banging his head against the wall and crying… We sang to his brother instead and made him blow the candles out.
Finally by 4 I had learned that a party wasn’t a good idea and that we should just celebrate by ourselves with a cake at home, when he shocked us all by blowing the candles out and clapping at the end of the song. The next week we threw the biggest birthday party for him and yes, he did it again!
Today, not only did he blow out the candles, clap and dance, but you could see the joy and happiness in his eyes. And for the first time, he was more interested in the gifts themselves than the wrapping paper they came in.
My point in all this is to never lose the hope. Yes, the results might be slow but as long as it’s happening we should never give up and always be thankful.